The Root of Suffering Is Attachment – Lord Buddha
A few days ago I reminded of the golden rule that helped me to be my best self. I was sitting alone on my rooftop when my friend came to me and asked what I was doing there.
I was upset and disappointed without any reason. Yes, a lot of time it happens with me. Once in a while, I feel frustrated for no reason. To use the word ‘frustration’ is inappropriate. Osho named this emotion – anxiety.
Most people get frustrated with their chores and exclaim they are feeling anxiety. Anxiety is not as same as worry. Anxiety is entirely different. Anxiety cannot be linked with irritability. Instead, they can use the words — anger, frustration, upset and so on.
Anxiety never comes from the outside world. It occurs from the inner world. A man who suffers from anxiety never stays quiet. He is impatient. He is discontented with his life. He is not spiritually weak but he is not strong as well. He can’t be his best self. We can’t say he is depressed because the word depressed is also unsuitable for the man who is suffering from anxiety.
Anxiety is the emotion that takes birth from our soul. Often it happens with the people who do not want to die like a plant or animal without giving any good to the world.
Only dreamers suffer from this disease, people who have burning desires and craving to get most out of the life.
When I looked at my friend I found that he was lost in his own world. He was grinning. I could not remember the time when he was so cheerful. When I asked him the reason behind his happiness he gave me a piece of paper that said, ‘A place where there no one to disturb us; a place where only the twinkling star above us.’
Of course, it was his beloved message for him. He was out of his mind so there was no point to share my anxiety with him. After a while, he went off.
As I rested back and deliberated over the words I read a few minutes ago, suddenly a thought flew through my mind. I reminded of the words I wrote somewhere in my journal.
Yes, it happens a lot of time that I read my own writings in order to get back on my path to becoming my best self without any sense of anxiety.
As I wrote, ‘When you were a child, do you remember taking anti-depressant pills when you were disappointed? When you fell down from the bicycle on your first attempt, did you attempt suicide? No. We have learned hundreds of things when we were a child.’
‘Even the first word we spoke was after several attempts. Then why do we live in sorrow and melancholy as an adult? All of us have some great qualities, which need to be manifested. That requires patience and persistence.
These qualities give us the responsibility to fulfill the purpose of our birth. Become a child who doesn’t argue, who doesn’t fear the future, who laughs a lot, who is eager to fall in the mud and stand up again.’ “Except ye be converted and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven,” said Jesus.
The golden rule is detachment. When you are in love you detach yourself from the world, with the work and with everything that is happening in your life.
Then there will be no one to disturb you and you can shout wholeheartedly, ‘A place where there is no one to disturb us; A place where only twinkling star above us.’ Then you will not be doing hard work; you will be doing love-work.
When you embrace this golden law of nature, detachment, you experience a new level of spirituality. There will be no anxiety. Have you ever seen saints suffering from anxiety? No, they always have smile stick to their face.
Now the question is how we can detach ourselves with our work and be our best self?
The Golden Rule to be Your Best Self: Detachment
It is necessary for every being who has the breath of life in his nostril to come in the present. Everything is in the present. No one is going to take anything from this universe. The only thing you can do is to give yourself to the world.
You are already doing a lot to change your circumstances but to spend melancholy days have not written in our destiny. We create our own destiny. I often turn to the poem of Kalidasa that I wrote in my post ‘My Life Without Worries.’
Look to this day,
For it is life, the very life of life.
In its brief course
Lie all the verities and realities of your existence:
The bliss of growth
The glory of action.
The splendour of achievement.
For yesterday is but a dream
And tomorrow is only a vision,
But today will make yesterday a dream of happiness
And every tomorrow a vision of hope.