Most people get quickly caught up in their mind. We never know what we are thinking about. We are just thinking about something. Most of the time that something is rubbish.
If you are thinking about one idea then it is good. Later, your idea will change into action and then it will become reality. But ideas rarely come to average beings, as aimless people don’t get ideas. They get thoughts.
I laugh when I read the words of Stephen Richards that he wrote in his book Think Your Way to Success, ‘Without desires and dreams, your thoughts do not matter and you can think whatever you want to.’
In these thoughts, a few are tucked. These few people don’t have to die, as they are already dead. Deep down in the heart, mistakes and regrets are still churning them. They are suffering from some circumstances that they don’t afford, thus allowing anxiety and depression by eating the body.
These diseases are the part of the fabric of life. Some of them have even accepted that they got a cosmic comeuppance of the previous birth.
A story about a man and a horse I came across while reading The Heart of Buddha’s Teaching by Thich Nhat Hanh, “A man riding the horse appears as if he is going somewhere important. Another man, standing alongside the road, shouts, ‘Where are you going?’ and the first man replies, ‘I don’t know! Ask the horse!’”
This is our story. We are riding a horse, we don’t know where we are going, and we can’t stop. The horse is our life pulling us along and we are powerless.
The truth is we do not have the courage to face problems, whereas it is the best way towards growth. We do the mistakes, fall into tough conditions and remain there in a hope that someone will come to our rescue. However, no one comes.
It is wrong to say that life is easy which is not. Even motivational speakers cry in hard circumstances. Everyone cries. It is not at all bad to cry.
I always suggest people to shriek on the top of the lungs and then hit the head on the wall so that they understand striking head on the wall is a waste of time.
People don’t know where all the problems are coming from. They just sit and think nonsense whole day long and make their life even worse. I too feel broken but I’ve solutions as I know where all the problems are coming from.
I don’t want to motivate you. I don’t want to provoke you to stand up and fight with your circumstances.
Today, I motivate you then what will happen, tomorrow? You need someone else to support you. You will ask your friend, your guru or someone else very close to your heart to help you. If they will be unable to solve your difficulties then eventually, you will again hit your head on the wall.
I’m sure this post will help you understand where all your problems are coming. By developing the areas which I’ve shared below, you can solve any problem.
Solve All Your Problems
The difficulty is we are confused by providing so much information that we are not sure what is going to work. If we get information that can be applied anywhere, we will have the answer to every question that life throws in front of us.
Whenever I fall into any problem, I just write down the three sources where all the problems are coming from on a paper and start finding the solutions. In fact, I say all the troubles in our life we are facing because of our ignorance in these three areas: Career, Family, and Spirituality.
If I’m facing difficulties financially or in my profession then I develop my career. Every financial problem comes from ignorance. Read more
Frequent arguing, disagreements, a breakdown in communication, angry outburst and avoidance are a few signs of family and relationship problems.
Firstly, I don’t have time to waste in arguments. I avoid talking about and criticizing others. I ask the person to do the same while talking to me. If something annoys me, I directly go to the people and talk.
Most of the family problems occur because of the lack of understanding. I take care of the small things that can hurt anyone. I’ve accepted everyone is different and it is better we understand others.
If the water goes above my head, I go into solitude until everyone gets silent. I let the waves of my anger calm down. If I burst my anger on someone, I make the situation all right just after the conflict.
Remember, everything is impermanent. The people you are fighting with may not be alive tomorrow.
The third area from where most of our problems come is the lack of spiritual education in our life. Purn Atma (Pure soul) is the only way towards mental growth. Spirituality gives us chance to embrace the peace of mind.
Whatever we give to the world, sooner or later, return to us. All the characteristics of a leader are withdrawn from spirituality. To have balance in life one should follow ethical values. We are still consuming jealous and hatred against each other. We are still competing ourselves with others.
As an old proverb goes, ‘There is nothing nobler in being superior to some other person. The true nobility is in being superior to your previous self.’
Strive hard to be free from the impurities that the world have. It is the character and behaviour where all these areas are linked with. If there is something amiss in your behaviour, you will fall into problems.
It is better we should change ourselves first rather than changing the world.
I recall the words of the Bible, Mathew 12:31-33, ‘Your character is the result of what you speak. Your happiness is the result of what you do. Make a tree good and its fruit will be good. Make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit.’